Parents are happier than non-parents, new research suggests
New research by psychologists at three North American universities, including the University of British Columbia, finds that parents experience greater levels of happiness and meaning from life than non-parents.
The findings, which contrast sharply with recent scholarship and popular beliefs, suggest that parents are happier caring for children than they are during other daily activities. The research also suggests that the benefits of parenthood appear more consistently in men and older and married parents.
To be published in the journal Psychological Science, the findings are among a new wave of research that suggests that parenthood comes with relatively more positives than negatives, despite the added responsibilities. The research also dovetails with emerging evolutionary perspectives that suggest parenting may be a fundamental human need.
“This series of studies suggest that parents are not nearly the ‘miserable creatures’ we might expect from recent studies and popular representations,” says UBC Psychology Prof. Elizabeth Dunn, who co-authored the study with colleagues at the University of California, Riverside and Stanford University. “If you went to a large dinner party, our findings suggest that the parents in the room would be as happy or happier than those guests without children.”
Over three studies, the researchers tested whether parents are happier overall than their childless peers, if parents feel better moment-to-moment than non-parents, and whether parents experience more positive feelings when taking care of children than during their other daily activities. The consistency of their findings, based on data and participants in both the U.S. and Canada, provides strong evidence challenging the notion that children are associated with reduced well-being, the researchers say.
The study identifies age and marital status as factors in parental happiness. “We find that if you are older (and presumably more mature) and if you are married (and presumably have more social and financial support), then you’re likely to be happier if you have children than your childless peers,” says co-author Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at UC Riverside. “This is not true, however, for single parents or very young parents.”
They also found parents are happier when they’re taking care of their children than while doing other activities during the day, according to the researchers from University of British Columbia, University of California, Riverside, and Stanford University.
Of course, that doesn’t mean having children will boost your happiness. The researchers emphasized their findings merely show a link between parenthood and happiness, not causation. They do, however, help debunk the stereotype of the glum parent who takes little pleasure in childcare duties, they said.
“These findings suggest that parents are not nearly the miserable creatures that we might expect from recent studies and popular representations,” co-author Elizabeth Dunn, associate professor of psychology at University of British Columbia, said in a press release.
The research consisted of three separate tests that compared whether parents are happier overall than non-parents, whether parents feel happier moment-to-moment, and whether parents have more positive feelings while taking care of their children versus doing other daily activities.
Fathers in particular expressed greater levels of happiness, positive emotion and meaning in life than their childless peers. “Interestingly, the greater levels of parental happiness emerged more consistently in fathers than mothers,” says Dunn. “While more research is needed on this topic, it suggests that the pleasures of parenthood may be offset by the surge in responsibility and housework that arrives with motherhood,” she says.
The researchers also found that the stresses associated with single parenthood did not wipe out the greater feelings of meaning and reward associated with having children.
That’s definitely a different tune than we’ve been hearing over the past few years.
Articles in The New York Times, New York Magazine and dozens of other publications and websites in past years have trumpeted the astounding number of studies being released claiming parenthood makes people unhappy. An issue of New York Magazine in July of 2010 the cover summed it up, in big white letters: “I Love My Children. I Hate My Life.”
In April 2009, the New York Times’ Motherlode blog also reported on parents being less happy than non-parents. For years, this has been believed to be, more or less, true.
Till this study. In it, researchers conducted tests to determine whether parents overall were happier than those without children. It found this to be true – particularly with fathers. And the kicker: Older married people are more likely to be happier if they have children than if they didn’t.