Stress: How to Cope Better With Life's Challenges

Key points
- Stress is caused by the body's instinct to defend itself.
- Any sort of change can make you feel stressed, even good change.
- Stress can cause health problems or make problems worse if you don't learn ways to deal with it.
- The first step is to learn to recognize when you're feeling stressed.
What causes stress?
Stress is caused by the body's instinct to defend itself. This instinct is good in emergencies, such as getting out of the way of a speeding car. But it can cause physical symptoms if it goes on for too long, such as in response to life's daily challenges and changes.
When this happens, it's as though your body gets ready to jump out of the way of the car, but you're sitting still. Your body is working overtime, with no place to put all the extra energy. This can make you feel anxious, afraid, worried and uptight.
What changes may be stressful?
Any sort of change can make you feel stressed, even good change. It's not just the change or event itself, but also how you react to it that matters. What may be stressful is different for each person. For example, one person may not feel stressed by retiring from work, while another may feel stressed.
Other things that may be stressful include being laid off from your job, your child leaving or returning home, the death of your spouse, divorce or marriage, an illness, an injury, a job promotion, money problems, moving, or having a baby.
Can stress hurt my health?
Stress can cause health problems or make problems worse if you don't learn ways to deal with it. Talk to your family doctor if you think some of your symptoms are due to stress. It's important to make sure that your symptoms aren't caused by other health problems.
| Possible signs of stress Anxiety Back pain Constipation or diarrhea Depression Fatigue Headaches High blood pressure Insomnia Problems with relationships Shortness of breath Stiff neck Upset stomach Weight gain or loss |
What can I do to reduce my stress?
The first step is to learn to recognize when you're feeling stressed. Early warning signs of stress include tension in your shoulders and neck, or clenching your hands into fists.
The next step is to choose a way to deal with your stress. One way is to avoid the event or thing that leads to your stress-but often this is not possible. A second way is to change how you react to stress. This is often the best way.
| Tips for dealing with stress Don't worry about things you can't control, like the weather. Prepare to the best of your ability for events you know may be stressful, like a job interview. Try to look at change as a positive challenge, not a threat. Work to resolve conflicts with other people. Ask for help from friends, family or professionals. Set realistic goals at home and at work. Exercise on a regular basis. Eat well-balanced meals and get enough sleep. Meditate. Get away from your daily stresses with group sports, social events and hobbies. Try to look at change as a positive challenge, not a threat. |
Written and revised by
David Cohen, M.D.
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health.am provides general information, not medical advice. Always consult a qualified health professional about your own health.
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