Table 70-5 Issues raised by spouses of transvestites

Impact of cross-dressing on the wife
Am I a lesbian?
What's wrong with me that he would want to dress as a woman?
Am I going to lose my husband (to another man/woman)?
I'm jealous of what "she" gets (clothes, makeup)!
I must be all alone in this.
I feel shame and guilt for being married to a transvestite.

Impact on the family
What should we tell the children (if anything)?
Will our sons be transvestites or transsexuals?
The money and time spent on "her" is lost to the family.
What if neighbors/family/employers discover this?

Impact on the marital relationship
He hid this from me; therefore he cannot be trusted.
What else has he lied to me about?
What other "perversions" does he have?
How will this affect our sex life?
I married a man - I didn't get what I bargained for!
If I "let" him cross-dress, will he get out of control?

Impact on her husband
Is he gay or bisexual because he cross-dresses?
Will he eventually want to have a sex change operation?
If he goes to "support groups," will he get out of control?
Will his desire to cross-dress ever go away?